Sermons by Ken D. Trivette

Sermons from the Book of James
THE FRANK SINATRA PHILOSOPHY
James 4:1-4
 

1. What is the cause of most, if not all, the fighting and fussing that goes on in Churches? Why do we not have our prayers answered? What keeps us from walking with God and enjoying His fellowship?  As we continue our study of the Book of James, we find that the reason for such things is what I want to call the Frank Sinatra Philosophy. What do I mean by the Frank Sinatra Philosophy? It is when we do it our way!  

2. A word that occurs frequently in verses 1-6 of James chapter four is “lust.” He speaks of the “lusts that war in our members” in verse one. He says in verse 2, “Ye lust, and have not.” He speaks of “your lusts” in verse three. Then in verse 5 he speaks of the “spirit that dwelleth in us lusteth to envy.” It is very obvious that the subject of verses 1-6 is our lusts. What does James mean when he talks about lusts? The word that he uses gives us our words “hedonism” and “hedonist.”  

3. It is a word that speaks of the gratification of our sensual, natural, and fleshly desires. It describes one in which pleasure is the chief end. One writer spoke of it as an unbridled search for pleasure. It is descriptive of the person that lives for self. They want things to be done the way they want it done. They want things to go the way they want them to go. They only think about what they want and only do things their own way.  

4. What is the fruit of living after our own desires and making pleasure the chief end of life? As we look at verses 1-6 we see three results of this philosophy. We see three outcomes of our lusts. Notice them with me. First we see:  

1. THE DIVISION CAUSED BY OUR LUSTS!  

1. We read in verse 1, “From whence come wars and fightings among you? come they not hence, even of your lusts that war in your members?”  James asks a question and then answers his own question. He addresses the matter of Church conflict. Tragically and sadly, it is not unusual to hear of division and dissension in a Church.  

2. I think of a parable that an unknown author has left us. It goes like this:  

The wedding guests have gathered in great anticipation; the ceremony to be performed today has long been awaited. The orchestra begins to play an anthem, and the choir rises in proper precision. The bridegroom and his attendants gather in front of the chancel. One little saint, her flowered hat bobbing, leans to her companion and whispers, “Isn’t he handsome?” The response is agreement, “My, yes. The handsomest…” The sound of the organ rises, a joyous announcement that the bride is coming. Everyone stands and strains to get a proper glimpse of the beauty. Then a horrible gasp explodes from the congregation. This is a bride like no other. In she stumbles. Something terrible has happened! One leg is twisted; she limps pronouncedly. The wedding garment is tattered and muddy; great rents in her dress leave her scarcely modest. Black bruises can be seen welting her bare arms; the bride’s nose is bloody. An eye is swollen, yellow and purple in its discoloration. Patches of hair look as if they had actually been pulled from her scalp. Fumbling over the keys, the organist begins again after his shocked pause. The attendants cast their eyes down. The congregation mourns silently. Surely the bridegroom deserved better than this! That handsome prince who has kept himself faithful to his love should find consummation with the most beautiful of women—not this. His bride, the church, has been fighting again.  

3. I have a feeling that the author had been involved in a church fight or two. Conflict and contention in a church is always tragic. The testimony and effectiveness of many a church has been ruined by division and dissension. James speaks of the result and reason for such division and dissension in a church in verse one. First we see:  

A. The Course Of Church Conflict

1. James asks, “From whence comes wars and fightings among you?” James speaks of “wars” and “fighting’s.” The two words describe the course of Church conflict. Phillips translates it, “But what about the feuds and struggles that exist among you?”  

2. First consider the word “wars.” The word means, “to carry on a campaign.” It indicates chronic, long-lasting hostilities. It speaks of a prolonged problem of division and dissension. This is more than a business-meeting getting out of hand. This is a church fight that stretches into weeks, months, and even years. 

3. Then he speaks of “fighting’s.” This particular word speaks of, “a sharp outburst, or skirmish.” The word “war” would speak of a war that last for several years, whereas, the word “fighting” would speak of particular battles that occur during that war.  

4. When there is division and dissension in a church, there are usually outbreaks of that division. Business meetings turn into arguing and people yelling at one another. Church services become everything and anything but worship. 

5. In Chuck Colson’s book The Body there is a chapter entitled “Extending the Right Fist of Fellowship.” He tells about an incident that occurred at the Emmanuel Baptist Church of Newton, Massachusetts. Listen to his description of what happened:

It was the right hook that got him. Pastor Waite might have stood in front of the Communion table trading punches with head deacon Ray Bryson all morning, had not Ray’s fist caught him on the chin two minutes and fifteen seconds into the fight. Waite went down for the count at the altar where most members of Emmanuel Baptists Church had first declared their commitment to Christ… Within an instant the majority of the congregation converged on the Communion table, punching or shoving… The melee soon spilled over to an open space beside the organ…Mary Dahl, the director of Dorcas Society, threw a hymnal…the missile sailed high and wide and splashed down in the baptistery behind the choir. When Ray’s right hook finally took the pastor down, someone grabbed the spring flower arrangement from the altar and threw it high in the air in Ray’s direction. Water sprinkled everyone in the first two rows on the right side, and a visiting Presbyterian experienced complete immersion when the vase shattered against the wall next to his seat…The fight ended when the police arrived on the scene.  

6. This is the course of division and dissension. When there is a war going on, there will be skirmishes and battles that will break out. Why do such things happen in church and among God’s people? What is the cause of such division? Notice secondly that James describes:  

B. The Source Of Church Conflict  

1. James asks where these wars and fighting’s come from and then answers his own question by saying, “come they not hence, even of your own lusts that war in your members?”  James tells us that source of Church conflict is our own lusts. In other words, church conflict is the result of someone wanting to have it his or her own way.  

2. It is like the fellow who no matter what was discussed in a business meeting always got up and said, “I’m against it.” On one occasion someone offered to donate the church a chandelier. As usual, he got up and said, “I’m against it.” The pastor looked at him and said, “Why would you be against it. It is not costing us anything.” He replied, “Well, first of all we don’t have anybody that can play it. Second of all, where would we put it, and thirdly, what we need around here is more light.”  

3. The root of most church conflict is that somebody could not have his or her way. They did not get what they wanted or what happened was not what they liked. It all stems from their lusts, their desires, their wants; desires that are selfish and self-centered, rather than God-centered.  

4. Now we all have our likes and dislikes. We all have our opinions and idea’s of how things should be done. We all have our wants and wishes. Yet, when it comes to the church, the issue is not what we want, like, or think, but what is beneficial and best for the church as a whole, and first and foremost what God wants.  

5. Yet, a person that has the Frank Sinatra Philosophy could care less what is beneficial to others and for the whole. They only care about what they want or desire. Furthermore, they have little thought or concern for what God wants. You can put this in your pipe and smoke it. Church conflict always finds it source in the lusts of our members. It is our pleasure that is the chief end, not necessarily what pleases God or is according to His will.  

6. Do you remember how chapter three closed? James told us that, “the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace of them that make peace” (James 3:18). Who is he talking about? He is talking about a wise man. Who is a wise man? If you remember in our last study, we saw in James 3:2 that a wise man is a perfect man, a spiritually mature person.  

7. A spiritually mature person does not live after his or her own desires. They do not live by the wisdom of this world. They live by an altogether different standard. They don’t cause trouble. They sow peace instead of strife.  

8. Secondly, notice not only the division our lusts cause, but also:  

2. THE DEPRIVATION CAUSED BY OUR LUSTS!  

1. James begins verse two by saying, “Ye lust, and have not: ye kill and desire to have, and cannot obtain.” Living according to the Frank Sinatra Philosophy not only creates division, but it also costs us certain blessings.  

2. When James spoke of killing, he was speaking of the extremes a person can go to in order to get what they want. Yet, James reminds us that those who seek their own pleasure are going down a path that will end in frustration. They will have not and will not obtain.  

3. How does our lusts deprive us? What does it deprive us of? Notice two things that James mentions. First he speaks of:  

A. Unoffered Prayer  

1. James says in verse 2, “Ye have not, because ye ask not.” I must confess that this statement by James is personally one of the most haunting verses in the Bible. It tells me that much of what I can have, I don’t have because I haven’t asked for it. Whenever I read this statement it always jumps out and grabs me by the heart saying, “Look at all you are missing because you don’t pray.”  

2. It is indeed a convicting verse. However, it is spoken primarily to those who have the Frank Sinatra Philosophy. The implication is that those who live for self are usually people who rarely seek things from God.  

3. People who live for their lusts are people who try to make things happen themselves. They are usually people that have no desire to pray, and furthermore, they don’t pray because they know that what they want would be contrary to what God wants.  

4. When a person lives after their own lusts, prayer is of little concern to them, so they do not pray. Because they ask not, they have not. They are deprived of the blessings prayer could bring them. 

5. We not only see unoffered prayer, but we also see:  

B. Unanswered Prayer  

1. We read in verse 3, “Ye ask, and receive not, because ye ask amiss, that ye may consume it upon your own lusts.” In verse prayer is not being offered. There is no asking. But in verse 3 we see someone asking but not getting an answer to their prayers. The reason is their own lusts are involved.  

2. Because their lusts is involved they ask “amiss.” The word speaks of praying with the wrong motives. What is wrong with the motive in prayer is that, “ye may consume it upon your own lusts.”  

3. The word “consume” means to spend or squander. What a person asks for is not for God’s glory, but to squander upon themselves. I remind you that prayer is never for the purpose of getting our will done in heaven, but for the purpose of getting God’s will done on earth.  

4. Let me give you an example of praying with the wrong motive. Let’s take a Christian wife that has a husband that is unsaved. He is hard to live with, getting drunk, wasting money on his habit, and when he gets drunk he comes home and mistreats her and the children.  

5. The wife is praying for his salvation. Only what she is really praying for is relief from the miserable conditions in which she lives. She wants him to be saved so he will quit getting drunk. She wants him to be saved so he will quit beating her and the children. She wants him to be saved so things will be better around the house.  

6. Wanting such things is not wrong, but in reality what she is praying for is based on her own desires. She is not praying for his salvation based on his benefit or the glory of God, but for her benefit. She is praying amiss and seeking an answer to consume it upon her own lusts.  When we pray amiss, with the wrong motives, we deprive ourselves of answers to our prayers. We rob ourselves of the blessings of getting things from God when we pray.  

7. It is said of John Knox that we could get anything from God that he asked. Having become familiar with John Knox through biographies, I am of the conviction that his prayers always had the will of God and the glory of God as the motive. That would explain why he could get what he asked for. He did not ask for himself, but for God and others.  

8. The third and final thing we see is:  

3. THE DISPLEASURE CAUSED BY OUR LUSTS!  

1. James tells us that when we live for own pleasures we bring God displeasure. Not only does our lusts cause church conflict and keep us from having an effective prayer life, it also hinders us from enjoying our relationship with God. Notice:  

A. The Friendship That God Does Not Approve  

1. We read in verse 4, “Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God.” He speaks of a friendship with the world that is having affection for the world. When he speaks of the world he is referring to the evil principles of this world in which we live. He is speaking of a system of things that is going in the opposite direction of God. It is a system of thing's that does not follow God or honor God.  

2. 1 John 1 2:15 tells us, “Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him.” God plainly condemns a friendship with the world.   

3. Furthermore, James tells us that a friendship with the world always leads to an affair with the world. He uses very strong terms when he speaks of this friendship with the world. He calls this friendship an adulterous relationship.

4. He says in verse 4, “Ye adulterers and adulteresses.” As I said, a friendship with the world always leads to an affair with the world. When we have an affair with this world it is the same as being unfaithful to God.  

5. A husband or wife made each other the vow they would be faithful to each other. As Christians, we cannot love God and love the world at the same time. To love this world is the same as having affair with this world. It is being unfaithful to God.  

6. Family therapist and psychiatrist Frank Pittman stated, “There may be as many acts of infidelity in our society as there are traffic accidents.” He went on to say that “infidelity is so common is no longer deviant.”  

7. Sadly and tragically, spiritual infidelity among the Body of Christ is about as common as traffic accidents and is so common that it is no longer considered a sin. Yet, we must never forget that a friendship with the world is spiritual adultery.  

8. Secondly, James speaks of:  

B. The Fellowship That God Does Not Allow  

1. James speaks of a friendship with the world as “enmity with God.” The word “enmity” speaks of hostility and hatred. He adds that this enmity or hostility makes the enemy of God. James says, “whosoever will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God.”  

2. Instead of being in fellowship with God we are not allowed the privilege of this fellowship. We are like an enemy at war with us. We are not on speaking terms or in fellowship with one another.  

3. One of the blessings and privileges of being saved is having fellowship with God. What a joy to be in fellowship with God! What a delight to walk with Him and talk with Him. Yet, when we live after own lusts, flirt with this world, commit spiritual adultery with this world, fulfilling our lusts, this fellowship is broken.  

4. Russian novelist Lo Tolstoy wrote of a man who was dominated by the driving pleasure for self-gratification. To possess land was his highest pleasure. Someone promised him that he could own all of the land he could walk around between sunrise and sunset on a given day. He began at a leisurely pace. However, driven by his ambition, he began to accelerate. He drove himself, sprinting faster and faster. His body blazed with fever. He stripped off his shirt and abandoned his boots. As the sun set, he flung himself toward his destination. He reached the starting line as the final rays disappeared in the west. Exhausted, he died. The only land he got was a grave, 6 feet by 2 feet.  

5. Let me sum up what James has been saying. When we live with the Frank Sinatra Philosophy, living our own way, doing our own things, living for self and the satisfaction of self, we never gain but always lose.